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gingerkraken submitted

I think I fixed it. It seems small, but that was what I could come up with

I think it looks fantastic! Thank you for sharing your Self-Schema. :D
Everyone else can share yours if you’d like. <3

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I think I fixed it. It seems small, but that was what I could come up with

I think it looks fantastic! Thank you for sharing your Self-Schema. :D

Everyone else can share yours if you’d like. <3

  #gingerkraken    #submission  
astrologerscafe:

Join our new Forum! A place for us all to talk about anything and everything. :)-&gt; http://astrologerscafe.boards.net/
Novice, Amateur, Beginner, Intermediate, Advanced, Expert, Professional, and everyone in between is welcome to join the Forum! This is a place for us to build an Astrological community, for us to talk with other people absolutely about anything Astrological! 

It’s an astrology forum that myself, and other Astrology Bloggers, created! Come chat with us. :3 
You don’t even have to make an account to post, and if you’re sitting there thinking “But I don’t know much about astrology - ” THAT’S OKAY. Share with us your thoughts on what you do know, and we’ll help you learn other things. ^-^
http://astrologerscafe.boards.net/

astrologerscafe:

Join our new Forum! A place for us all to talk about anything and everything. :)
-> http://astrologerscafe.boards.net/

Novice, Amateur, Beginner, Intermediate, Advanced, Expert, Professional, and everyone in between is welcome to join the Forum! This is a place for us to build an Astrological community, for us to talk with other people absolutely about anything Astrological! 

It’s an astrology forum that myself, and other Astrology Bloggers, created! Come chat with us. :3 

You don’t even have to make an account to post, and if you’re sitting there thinking “But I don’t know much about astrology - ” THAT’S OKAY. Share with us your thoughts on what you do know, and we’ll help you learn other things. ^-^

http://astrologerscafe.boards.net/

thedreamcatcher312:

Astrology : Is our Future Written in the Stars ? [FULL DOCUMENTARY]

For all the people who want to know how to learn Astrology. Its very easy and Fun! like real life pokemon. We all are meant to evolve… #DreamOrDie 

Not a bad documentary! Almost an hour long, if anyone’s interested. :)

EDIT: I’m 10 minutes in and I highly encourage you watch this when/if you have the time. It’s really, really, good!

  #zodiac    #astrology    #horoscope  

For planning purposes… (for anyone interested in buy Astrology books)

Do you prefer purchasing hardcover, paperback, or ebooks?

Personal Note;

I’m trying to re-prioritize my life, because there are a lot of things I want to do, and not a whole lot of time to do them in. 

What I’m debating is - do I focus my free time on working on the Zodiac Story, or working on my Astrology book? The former would leave AstralTwelve rather post-less, and the latter would inspire me to post things that often seem to lose our audience’s interest (like lengthy posts about the planets in signs and houses and whatnot). 

It’s most likely going to be the latter. I’ll try to have little fun things every now and then, or even games, to keep things from getting too stale. But I really do want to make a career out of this, and I feel that actually completing a book will be a good first step.

This also means that (for the sake of my wellbeing) I may have to let a lot of other things sit on the back-burners for a while.

What that means is, I probably won’t be working on ZodiacStory too intensively. (I still want to - but I won’t stress over it). 

I will continue (like always) to take post requests and answer questions

I completely understand if some of our followers dislike this change - and if you decide to unfollow, that’s totally okay. For those of you who decide to stick around and read all the stuffs anyway, I appreciate your support! 

I love you all, and have a fantastic day. <3

  #update    #calli    #personalish  
qui-mortem-invitavit:

astraltwelve:

qui-mortem-invitavit:

astraltwelve:

This is my self-schema (ish)!
You all should go to this website, type in all the words you feel are part of your self-schema, and create a word cloud of your self-schema, and submit it to us!

 anal-retentive 

Yes…? Someone who is orderly or fussy. Basically when people say “OCD,” what they actually mean is “anal-retentive.”

i may or may not have been wrong my whole life
#IM SO SORRY I DIDNT MEAN TO OFFEND YOU#I&#8217;VE DEFINITELY THOUGHT OF A LITERAL MEANING FOR THAT AND LET ME TELL YOU#HONESTLY THOUGH#I&#8217;M REALLY SORRY IF I OFFEND

Oh, you&#8217;re fine, love! I just have a habit of being rather flat, which comes across as mean/pissy/angry, even when I&#8217;m totally not. :X
But it&#8217;s really okay - it&#8217;s become rather common (and is a bit of a pet peeve). People use Mental Disorders as adjectives, where there are actually words out there that mean what they&#8217;re trying to say!
And you&#8217;re not totally off thinking it has to do with butts - but it&#8217;s not quite the way you imagined. xD
In Freudian Psychology, we go through different stages of psychosexual development; Oral, Anal, Phallic, Latency, and Genital. He claimed that little fixations and certain behavior people have are results of when things &#8220;go wrong&#8221; during one of those stages.
Ex; the Oral stage is from birth to a year old (babies enjoying nursing on the mother&#8217;s breast). Frued theorized that if your id feels unfulfilled during this stage (especially during weaning), you can become Orally Aggressive, Orally Passive, or Orally Fixated.
In the case of Anal-Retentiveness, during the anal stage (infancy to early childhood) while the child is learning potty training, the child has to learn control over bowel movements.  conflicts during this period of time may develop &#8220;anal&#8221; personality traits, especially those associated with a child&#8217;s efforts at excretory control: orderliness, stubbornness, a compulsion for control. If these qualities continue into later life, the person is said to be &#8220;anal-retentive&#8221;. Conversely, those who reject anal-retentive characteristics are said to have &#8220;anal-expulsive" personality types (state of a person who exhibits cruelty, emotional outbursts, disorganization, self-confidence, (sometimes) artistic ability, generosity, rebelliousness and general carelessness).
Whether or not you believe this is totally up to you - Freud&#8217;s work is pretty controversial these days, but that&#8217;s where that word comes from! 
(Also, I feel like this may seem like the same as calling someone OCD, especially considering its psychological origins, but I feel that the distinction is in the OCD is a disorder - an illness - whereas anal-retentive is a personality / behavior that isn&#8217;t necessarily &#8220;wrong&#8221; or disorderly, as much as having a Psychologist attempt to explain where it comes from. Also, OCD only sometimes includes fixation on organization, and is much more about fixation on certain details (most often hand washing, locking doors, following patterns) due to an extreme and irrational fear of the consequences of breaking the pattern)
WOW SORRY FOR WRITING ALL THIS JESUS CHRIST

qui-mortem-invitavit:

astraltwelve:

qui-mortem-invitavit:

astraltwelve:

This is my self-schema (ish)!

You all should go to this website, type in all the words you feel are part of your self-schema, and create a word cloud of your self-schema, and submit it to us!

anal-retentive

Yes…? Someone who is orderly or fussy. Basically when people say “OCD,” what they actually mean is “anal-retentive.”

i may or may not have been wrong my whole life

#IM SO SORRY I DIDNT MEAN TO OFFEND YOU#I’VE DEFINITELY THOUGHT OF A LITERAL MEANING FOR THAT AND LET ME TELL YOU#HONESTLY THOUGH#I’M REALLY SORRY IF I OFFEND

Oh, you’re fine, love! I just have a habit of being rather flat, which comes across as mean/pissy/angry, even when I’m totally not. :X

But it’s really okay - it’s become rather common (and is a bit of a pet peeve). People use Mental Disorders as adjectives, where there are actually words out there that mean what they’re trying to say!

And you’re not totally off thinking it has to do with butts - but it’s not quite the way you imagined. xD

In Freudian Psychology, we go through different stages of psychosexual development; Oral, Anal, Phallic, Latency, and Genital. He claimed that little fixations and certain behavior people have are results of when things “go wrong” during one of those stages.

Ex; the Oral stage is from birth to a year old (babies enjoying nursing on the mother’s breast). Frued theorized that if your id feels unfulfilled during this stage (especially during weaning), you can become Orally Aggressive, Orally Passive, or Orally Fixated.

In the case of Anal-Retentiveness, during the anal stage (infancy to early childhood) while the child is learning potty training, the child has to learn control over bowel movements.  conflicts during this period of time may develop “anal” personality traits, especially those associated with a child’s efforts at excretory control: orderliness, stubbornness, a compulsion for control. If these qualities continue into later life, the person is said to be “anal-retentive”. Conversely, those who reject anal-retentive characteristics are said to have “anal-expulsive" personality types (state of a person who exhibits cruelty, emotional outbursts, disorganization, self-confidence, (sometimes) artistic ability, generosity, rebelliousness and general carelessness).

Whether or not you believe this is totally up to you - Freud’s work is pretty controversial these days, but that’s where that word comes from! 

(Also, I feel like this may seem like the same as calling someone OCD, especially considering its psychological origins, but I feel that the distinction is in the OCD is a disorder - an illness - whereas anal-retentive is a personality / behavior that isn’t necessarily “wrong” or disorderly, as much as having a Psychologist attempt to explain where it comes from. Also, OCD only sometimes includes fixation on organization, and is much more about fixation on certain details (most often hand washing, locking doors, following patterns) due to an extreme and irrational fear of the consequences of breaking the pattern)

WOW SORRY FOR WRITING ALL THIS JESUS CHRIST

  #and thus concludes today's episode of    #calli knowledge barfing    #calli telling us things we didn't want to know    #sorry  
qui-mortem-invitavit:

astraltwelve:

This is my self-schema (ish)!
You all should go to this website, type in all the words you feel are part of your self-schema, and create a word cloud of your self-schema, and submit it to us!

 anal-retentive 

Yes&#8230;? Someone who is orderly or fussy. Basically when people say &#8220;OCD,&#8221; what they actually mean is &#8220;anal-retentive.&#8221;

qui-mortem-invitavit:

astraltwelve:

This is my self-schema (ish)!

You all should go to this website, type in all the words you feel are part of your self-schema, and create a word cloud of your self-schema, and submit it to us!

anal-retentive

Yes…? Someone who is orderly or fussy. Basically when people say “OCD,” what they actually mean is “anal-retentive.”

  #qui-mortem-invitavit    #replies    #dafurq  

I want astrology to teach me and others that people are full of harmonious and conflicting energies and we all need empathy. We are all our own collection of stardust and none of us are mistakes.

This is perfect, imstuckinarut !

ivehadrecurringnightmares:

tbh I sometimes think about how Helena believes in astrology, and how I really, really don’t, but she still remains my favourite person; you don’t need to agree with everything someone believes in to respect them as a person. She preaches about being true to oneself. It’s not about what you believe in but how you practice your beliefs. I just think this is relevant.

Perfect post is perfect.

This is my self-schema (ish)!
You all should go to this website, type in all the words you feel are part of your self-schema, and create a word cloud of your self-schema, and submit it to us!

This is my self-schema (ish)!

You all should go to this website, type in all the words you feel are part of your self-schema, and create a word cloud of your self-schema, and submit it to us!

Introduction to the Self-Schema

Creating a Tumblr, Creating a Facebook, making any web profile, the cheesy “meet your classmates” sessions - what do they all have in common? At some point you’re requested to describe yourself. 

Any time you have to describe yourself, you probably begin with the basic physical attributes - your hair color, your eye color, your height (“I’m tall,” “I’m short”), etc. Some people may even include their body shape. 

Next you probably move on to the psychological characteristics - “I’m friendly,” “I’m honest,” “I’m smart,” etc. 

Most often, people identify whatever makes them feel unique, or important. 

All of these are the basic components of the Self-Schema.

What is the Self-Schema? It’s the epitome of how we define ourselves. It’s the entirety of what we think makes us, ourselves. Our self-schema is an organized collections about the self. 

These perceptions are developed from our life experiences, and are composed of how we view our personality traits, abilities, physical features, values, goals, and social roles (Campbell, Assanand, & DiPaula 2000). The traits that our compiled into our Self-Schema are complex and multi-dimensional, focusing on aspects of our personality that are most important to them, including both strengths and weaknesses. 

Each of our Self-Schema’s are characterized by their individual distinct thoughts and feelings. 

For example, one person may person may have considerable information about their social skills and therefore feel quite confident about them, but have limited information and therefore less confidence about their physical skills. 

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  #self-schema    #psychology  

Parts of the Self-Schema

(This is not all-inclusive)

  #self schema    #psychology  

Factors that Shape the Self-Schema

One’s Own Observations

We observe our own behavior and draw conclusions about themselves starting very early in life. Leon Festinger’s (1954) social comparison theory proposes that individuals compare themselves with others in order to asses their abilities and opinions. 

Cultural Values

Our Self-Schema is also shaped by our culture values; the society in which we were raised contributes to how we define what is desirable and undesirable in personality and behavior. One important way cultures differ is the polarity of individualism vs collectivism (Hofstede, 1983; Triandis, 1989, 2001). Individualism involves putting personal goals ahead of group goals, and defining one’s identity in terms of personal attributes rather than group memberships. On the other hand, collectivism involves putting group goals ahead of personal goals, and defining one’s identity in terms of the groups one belongs to. 

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Although they may seem like an “either-or” situation, it’s more like a sliding scale, wherein cultures fall on any point along the spectrum. 

Feedback from Others

Our self-schema’s are significantly shaped by the feedback we get from important people in our lives. Parents and family members play an important role during our early childhood, and we often take the things they say to heart and carry them with us throughout life. 

Teachers, Little League coaches, Scout Leaders, classmates, and friends all play a role in childhood. In later childhood and adolescence, parents and classmates are particularly influential sources of feedback and support. 

Later in life, feedback from close friends and long-time significant others take the most influential roles; there’s evidence that support and affirmation from our close partners can help us align our actual self with our ought self and ideal self. 

Social Context

Not only the people giving us feedback that’s important; but the social context where interactions occur. For example, some people are often much more out-going, and less self-conscious when they’re at a club or a diner with friends than when they’re setting in a class. 

Social Context effects how people think and feel about others, as well as the impression they knowingly convey to others in different situations. For example, in an office, a superior will act and feel like a leader with subordinates, but will quickly change demeanor and outlook in the presence of an equal (Moskowitz, 1994).

  #self schema    #psychology  

Self-Discrepancies

Some people perceive themselves pretty much the way they’d like to see themselves. Others experience a gap between what they actually see, and what they’d like to see. 

For example, you might see yourself as “shy” but your ideal self is “outgoing.” According to E. Tory Higgins (1987), individuals have several organized self-perceptions; an actual self, an idea self, and an ought self

The actual self is the qualities you believe you have. The ideal self is the characteristics you would like to have. The ought self are traits you believe you should possess. The latter two serve as personal standards or self-guides that direct behavior.

Self-discrepancy consists of a mismatch between the self-perceptions that make up the actual self, ideal self, and ought self. 

According to Higgins (1999). people who feel that they live up to their personal standards (ideal self or ought self) they experience high self-esteem; when they feel that they don’t meet their own expectations, their self-esteem suffers. He elaborates that different types of self-discrepancies are associated with different emotions.

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While these discrepancies can cause feelings of inferiority - they can also cause feelings of superiority. Those who are unhappy often feel that their actual self is inadequate compared to their ideal self or their ought self. Others feel that their actual self is more than adequate - perfectly aligned with what they could be and should be, and therefore can be quite arrogant and overly self-assured.

  #self schema    #psychology  
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